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{July 26, 2009}   What is virtuous? Have you ever asked this question?

Recently I was miss-judged.

Men did not look am me to see the Christ in my life, rather they judge my appearance and blame me for their own thoughts. I was recently accused of things that would go against my nature.  I have sought prayer and the Word for guidance to learn what it is I must learn from this recent trial/persecution.  This video pointed out the appearance a woman takes. 

I try to dress simple.  I thought I did pretty well at this considering many I know have fancy clothes and jewelry, but they have the money I do not have.  Then I realized compared to a few others, I appear to them as one who dresses fancy when really it is just work clothes.  I have stopped wearing jewelry, but even with out it, my work clothes seem dressy.  Especially when I go to a location where poverty is running ramped.  I do occasionally wear some jewelry, but again it is simple compared to many I know, who happen to be very wealthy. 

Anyway, this video along with the 10 videos Paul Washer has on dating has helped me realize men think and look at women 100% differently then we look at men.  I look at a man to see how strong mentally and physically he is; now I am not speaking of muscle per say, but rather his noble character.  How he handles responsibility.  How dependable he is.  How he interacts with others.  What kinds of things interest him?  Will he be loyal, etc? Not as a sexual item as they look at us.  I guess you could say it is due to how we are made genetically.  Man did/do receive more red blood cells at birth then the female which helps with their masculinity.  Anyway, I am now more aware of how a woman can affect a man with the slightest stroke of her hair, the way she carries herself when walking or sitting, and even in the way she may glance at him.  Sometimes, I wish I knew all the do(s) and don’t(s) in human behavior when it comes to the opposite sex.  Perhaps, I would not have lost a good man.  I did not intend to make him feel uncomfortable or want to cause him to sin with his thoughts or feel guilty for anything he has done or thought.  All I can do is learn from this whole experience, as I have been trying to do.  I have asked God many questions lately about myself, men, and this particular situation.  I am finally at peace after 3 weeks of torment.

Anyway enjoy this video.


G says:

I blogged this elsewhere and received these comments and wanted to share. Normally I do not copy my other site comments, but these had good points to note and share.

G says:

glynisp wrote today at 7:28 AMI\’ll have to listen to this BUT I\’ve heard this train of teaching before and I think it needs to be derailed. There is nothing wrong with dressing modestly and attractively. A person sins when according to the book of James 1:14 – 15 "but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death." This type of teacher tries to force women into carrying the blame for sin that MEN have to go to God about, that they need to pray and repent of. It is for liberty that Christ set us free, not that we should be enslaved again by crazy rules and regulations. (Look to Galatians). Teachers like this try to put women into bondage and it is wrong. Plain wrong. False doctrine and dangerous.

G says:

edie139 wrote today at 10:43 AMIf I\’m undestanding your blog right and what that guy is teaching, I tend to agree with glnsip. However, I think it is good for women to be AWARE of how men think (like when there is a man who likes you and you don\’t like him…you don\’t want to send the wrong message) but bottom line everyone is responsible for their own actions including your "friend" who you mentioned. I think the whole dress thing does not apply to you Gwenn. You do dress nice and there is nothing wrong with that. You don\’t show too much skin…I think that is when it crosses the line. Because there are women who…wow…go to work like they are gonna walk the streets. And I don\’t think there is nothing wrong with jewlry either. I wear jewlry sometimes…what we have we earned with hard work. What you have you have earned with hard work too…and an unwavering faith in the Lord. God rewards those who faithfully seek Him….sometimes spriitually and sometimes materially. If you are feeling guilty for the fancy clothes which are just work clothes that look fancy to people who are in poverty…just remember that God blessed you with those clothes and you shouldn\’t feel guilty for having it and wearing it to include the jewlry.

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