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{November 24, 2016}   Happy Thanksgiving Everyone 

​Happy Thanksgiving everybody! !!
Praise the Lord I am able to celebrate today with my wonderful husband that God gave me.   So Thankful to God for loving me so much He gave His son, so I may gain enternity. I wait patiently for Christ,  my Lord, to take me home, and as I wait,  I do my best to obey Him and enjoy the people He has put in my life.  IF YOU ARE CONNECTED TO ME ON ANY OF MY ONLINE PROFILES HERE IN FACEBOOK OR ANYWHERE,  THAN YOU ARE SOMEONE GOD HAS BROUGHT TO ME AND I PRAY THE LORD BE WITH YOU TODAY AND THAT YOU WILL KNOW HIS LOVE.  EAT WELL AND BE MERRY.


 Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household.  – Acts 16:31

Pastor Franklin begins this chapter stating that women were out numbering men in church attendance.  I believe this was true when I was younger, but not so much today.  This book was printed back in 2007.  Even in 2007, I can’t say my experience is the same.  I remember couples and families filling the pews.

In churches I have been in lately (the past few years), I see an equal number of men and women, however I see more attendees in my age range and older.  I see a few in the generation below me, and I am shamed to say I see even less two generations below me, and hardly anyone 20 and below.  Isn’t that shameful to say?  I began to ask myself, why is that?  Churches I am referring to have both young and old ministers, so it is the teaching.  What is it?  I began to pray.

God reminded me the world is constantly changing.  He reminded me of how he prepared me for this new world.  Most people are hitting the internet for all their needs.  They shop online, socialize online, attend college and high school online, they gossip online, read the newspaper online, they do everything except bathe or eat online.  (I am smiling)  I remember a time when I hardly saw a real person except at work or a social gathering.  Why you might ask, because I was online. (smirked)

Today, people are even working at home via remote sessions, online connections, etc.  Video conferencing has grown so much from just a social tool, to a business tool, and now used on smart phones.  Yes, I am guilty, I like to video call.  I would rather video call than just talk on the phone.   I don’t mind texting, but if I can see the person I am communicating with, I feel as though I am right there in the same room with them.

My husband, the pastor, is preparing to take his ministry online as well.  This year we uploaded many of his services to YouTube.  No he was not the first to do this, but in our revolving world he is the first.  It has proven to be a great avenue in reaching souls.  I pray God will continue to allow us to do this and for my husband to allow me to teach him how to use these internet tools I mentioned.

We are moving, and where we are going they seemed to be avid internet users.  My husband already has a skype ID and now new emails and Facebook accounts.  We are changing local internet service providers (ISP) .  So I recently set him up with a universal emails, both gmail and outlook.   So now he can use google hangout or skype to video chat/talk to those that wish to communicate that way.  He can write letters via emails.  I will have to teach him how to blog.  🙂

Anyway, back to the topic, REACHING OUR Friends, Families, and strangers for Christ.  This chapter discusses a relationship between a husband and wife.  A women who the Lord spoke with and a man who longs to have a relationship with the Lord as she does.  Jealousy is a sin and to purposely cause another to sin is wrong, but this kind of sin may just change a person’s life.  Pastor Franklin spoke about how an unsaved man seeks the actions of a saved woman and instead of falling out of love with her, he falls deeper in love with her and desires to know God as she does.  He develops a yearning for the Lord.  As scripture states: 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 (Paul is giving advice)

     But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: if any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.  And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband…But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases.  But God has called us to peace.  For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband?   Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

No one knows if one is willing to change their life for Christ, but there is always hope.  If God called you into a relationship with Himself.  Than HE can call your spouse as well.  With that said, know He can also call your children, siblings, and friends.  Yes, even your parents if need be.

I want to discuss the latter part even further.  Pastor Franklin goes into another area of discussion with this passage, which I summarized above, but I feel led to talk about the part, “….But God has called us to peace.  For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?”  I know it is hard for men and women to relate to eachother completely, God designed us so different.  We understand things different and react different to things, situations than the opposite sex.  I have seen couples who are unequally yoked.  Yoked referring to their level of understanding in God’s Word or level of commitment to Christ Jesus and God Almighty.  Who I might add are one of the same.  Anyway, when one spouse feels less spiritual than the other, they become discontent in their self and seek affection elsewhere rather than turning to their spouse as a friend to gain understanding.  This is so sad, because eventually it can lead to divorce.  I know, my ex-husband left me and stated that he didnt’ feel good enough and could not be the man he thought I wanted.  When trying to get to the root of the matter, turns out he felt like I put the church and God before him.  I tried to explain that the church didn’t come before him, but GOD did.  He was not happy about that.  He didn’t understand and accused me of being to much of a fanatic or religious.


It IS God’s will that we all be sanctified.  He knows how many find it difficult to actually live out in today’s world.   I look at my children and see the temptations this world offers.  As a mother, I fear for their souls, their lives; all I can do is pray.  When all the talks, lectures, and scolding have come to their end, I am left with the power of prayer.  In my opinion, prayer is better and more powerful than all the talks, lectures, and scolding we give our children.

BUT prayer alone is not enough if you are a parent.  God will hold you accountable for what we say and don’t say to our children.  Even what we do or don’t do for them, to them.

Today, there is such an increase in the news stations bringing stories to public awareness in regards to sexual conduct both consented and in the form of abuse.  It makes my skin crawl.  Now with our nation allowing same sex marriages, we are seeing an increase of sex immortally in commercials, sitcoms, T.V. Shows, movies, and flat out in public site in restaurants, cafes, in public schools, and the list goes on.

All I can do is be available to my grown children (birth and step-children) in allowing them to ask questions. To pray God will send a christian who understands His ways and His plan for the people He created, if they are asking others about rights and wrongs.  BUT ultimately, it is God who calls us into a relationship with Him and He alone that shows us the way via the Word and His Spirit.  SO if he helped me to become who I am today, than I must trust God to do the same for my children and everyone.

This CHAPTER, CH 13, “Discerning Sexual Temptation” is a good section, though it was written several years ago, it hits on things going on today.  You should read it again if you already read it.  🙂  It begins with 1 Thessalonians 4:3, “For this is the will of God , your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality.”

I don’t know what the kids today are talking about with each other, I only know what they allow me to hear or what they share with me.  Mr. Franklin writes, “We are living in a society where young girls and boys are asked to become adults overnight. ……… to think that once they have sex, they will be ‘real’ men and women……”  I can’t say this is true here in my community.  The boys thoughts are my source of input.  My son and his friends.  A few boys have shared that it is the girls who seem to be curious about this kissing stuff.    One boy however seems to talk about his parents and what they watch in front of him.  I have caught him speaking in a degrading way about girls bodies, I naturally corrected him.  At first he laughed at me, rather chuckled, but anyway I gently explained how his behavior was rude and not pleasing to the Lord.  He acknowledged the wrong and seemed remorseful.  But, I couldn’t handle the influence he was having over my own son, so after a few more visits, I put a stop to their interaction, well out side of school that is.

About a month ago, my son shared that a 12 year old girl was having a baby with a 14 year old boy.  I asked him his thoughts.  He replied, “That is stupid.”  I asked him if he knew how it happened and why it was wrong. He replied, “Well yeah! mom.  It is wrong because they are not married.”  I agreed, but went on to express more reasons as to why it was wrong.  Like their age, etc.  He seemed to understand and stated, “Well they aren’t adults and can’t take care of it, guess their parents will.”  I said what happens if the parent’s can’t or wont’.  He innocently said, “They have to.”  I replied, “No, they don’t.  They could force the child into adoption which means this boy and girl couldn’t see the baby ever.  They may even force an abortion, which is death to this child.  I asked him his thoughts.  He said, “I am glad it is not me.” I smiled and thought, me too.  I began to ask if he and his friends think of such things.  He said, “No, it is the girls who do that.”  He added, “I do want a girlfriend, but I can wait.”  I said, “A girlfriend! You are to young for that.”  Than I asked what do girlfriends do?  He said, “They pass notes and say cool things about you.”   I changed the subject, and stated he needed not to think about it.

Honestly though, early this school year which would be fall 2014, a senior boy and a sophomore girl had a baby.  The baby is not to blame, but I felt is was wrong to shower this girl with all the goodies a married woman (would like but never gets) at a baby shower, baby clothes, baby furniture, baby stuff, etc.  I realize the people who did this was showing their love for the person not the action, and they were students in school not working adults who needed things for the baby.  I was afraid of the message it presented done in such a public manor or display.   Later when the little baby girl was born a huge portion of the community praised the birth and the couple who hadn’t married.  I think there was plans of marriage, not sure if it ever happened or not.  I kind of pulled away.  I was nice and friendly and pray for them.  I just can’t condone the action.  The baby who is innocent is not in my life, but if it were, I would show love towards her and would encourage marriage if they weren’t already.  They are a cute couple who has dated for a couple of years and seem to be in love.  But for one reason or another they shy ed away from our life and moved to a different church, one with more people with money.  I can forgive them and miss them.  The last season I remember them coming to our church was the winter of 2013.  That Christmas of 2013, I gave both families a gift the very next year we didn’t see them (both families).  The girl she came to church alone most of the time,  I believe I saw her father and sisters 2 in a 4 year span.  The boy however, came with his father and sisters quit frequently. Guess they felt the need to move, no one at the church knew of her pregnancy until the small town talk began.  Please hear what I am trying to say.  I think giving them stuff to help them was a good thing and a way to show God’s love for them, but could have happened more quietly to discourage other teens from doing the same.

After all in the bible we read where God will forgive us of our sins, but he doesn’t say he will spare us the consequence of it.

Anyway, now, today, in the spring of 2015, the SAME school year, another sophomore is having a baby, not sure the due date, not sure of any details as the above story.

All I know is today’s world is getting crazy in so many ways.  This chapter speaks of negative influences.  Well, how can we as parents protect ourselves from the media unless we decide to avoid the world, Hahaha, it is hard.  I watched a PG-13 movie the other day.  It was not rated for a thirteen year old as it stated.  The nudity scenes.  mind you it didn’t show everything a rated R shows, but it showed enough, that in my book was not for a thirteen year old.

Sexual morals is necessary for many reasons not to mention the aid in living a pure life.  There are to many people being hurt and families being turned upside down because of it.  I know this first hand.  My ex-husband leaving for another woman.  Another story for another day.

We just need to be honest and open with our children about all the downfalls of sex and explain how a good thing can be a bad choice.  Also, to know when this good thing can actually be a good choice.  What setting makes a good thing a bad choice or good choice.  I don’t mean we should go into explicit details about “sex”, but come on you can’t keep it a secret with today’s media chances are they already know about it.  My son knew, and I didn’t tell him about it.  I know his father didn’t tell him.

I do like that narrative given by Mr. Franklin, “You can measure the kind of Christian you are by the cost you’re willing to pay.”  I know he was not the first to say that, and I have heard others say that long before the book.  I will leave you now with that thought.

“What cost are you willing to pay as a Christian?”

In today’s era we must be on guard not just for our marriages, but our families and friends as well.  As the world progresses, it accepts new efforts to accommodate the flesh by adding morals that go against God’s Word leading to the alterations of existing laws and adding new ones.  We as Christians must refrain from following the new ways of living and ensure our morals and values are in line with the Word.   Though we are told to obey the laws of the land, be on guard and test all things against the Word.

This chapter discusses the basic issues in life that we all have heard growing up in one form or another, and even witnessed either through those close to us or personally.  Divorce, love, family, wounds, and most interesting how women discern emotional situations more precise then men will be the topics.

Why is marriage so crucial?  Think about it.  If Satan can get a marriage to fall apart, who feels the pain or sees the damage?  As for the effects, the two individuals in the marriage are not the only ones to feel the pain whether children are involved or not.  Are you wondering who if not the children?  Well let’s not forget the parents or close friends.   Parents feel the pain when they have grown attached to the person in their child’s life.  When this attachment is formed, they not just love having them around, but they have a sense of concern for their well being too.  When this person is gone all of a sudden, society makes it hard for them to just pick up the phone and check on them without upsetting their natural child who has been scorned or is the one who chose to no longer be married.

Friends who had both to associate with before now find it difficult to remain friends with one and not the other and usually if they can’t decide they lose contact with both causing pain to themselves and the two in the marriage that fell apart.   As for seeing the damage, this can be a vast area when you think about it.  As I already mentioned family.  If siblings are involved, their children, if the two in the marriage had children, the kids, grandparents, and cousins.  I also mentioned friends’ right, if they have kids, their kids, co-workers, people you may associate with either frequently or from time to time, strangers who know you in the neighborhood or the community who are watching and expecting to see God’s light knowing you are saved.  Think of the damage you cause to your testimony as a couple.

That is why we are learning about key points, warning signs, or as J. Franklin says, “Marriage assassins” in order to avoid a divorce.  Whether a divorce is nasty or peaceful, it is not what God intended from the beginning.  Most of the time a marriage can be saved if the two are willing to love unconditional, FORGIVE, and be non-selfish.

Well, let’s discuss the chapter at hand now.

He begins with the verse, “Remember the Lord, great and awesome, and fight for your brethren, your sons, your daughters, your WIVES, and your houses.” –Nehemiah 4:14.  If society would fight to re-instill family values and work morals, perhaps a great portion of our society could spread stability in children, a sense of self-assurance better then what we see in young adults today.  We hear of young children even teens disrespecting authority and tossing aside the laws and common boundaries as if uncivil and untamed.  Is it too late to change the damage done?  I don’t think so, for my hope is in the Lord God Almighty.  We just read where He tells us to fight for our families and more, so do as I have done, seek ways to improve you as a parent and re-instill the discipline disparately needed in teaching respect for authority, laws, and God.

We read in this chapter about the intimacy gap, which we have read similar things in other books.  To reiterate the highlight of this, women desire the emotional intimacy and men want the physical intimacy.  Women tend to go on feelings, where men are attracted to what is evidently visual.

Pastor Franklin discusses the path to destruction and list different assassins of marriage.  Assassin #1, a long marriage is a secure marriage.  Assassin #2, selfishness and a preoccupation with you.  Assassin #3, Immaturity.  Assassin #4, Manipulation.  Assassin #5, lack of commitment.  Assassin #6, Promiscuity.  Assassin #7, Stress.  Assassin #8, economic pressure.  Assassin #9, outside interference.  Assassin #10, unforgiveness.  Assassin #11, comparing.  Assassin #12, the wrong environment.  This is a lot of insight, good story he shares.  It encouraged me each time I read this chapter.  I read it a few times a couple of years ago, again about a year ago, and now again to finalize my notes on this chapter.  You should take the time to read it.  I will do my best to give my insight as God directs.

We all know Satan’s number one weapon, deception.  What is our number one weapon as a Christian, rather as a child of God?   Discernment is our weapon, which we discussed in previous chapters.   How does one know if what we decide is due to the discernment given by God or by our own intelligence?  For me, looking back in life when I made decisions, I didn’t have a peace as I do now when I make decisions.  I still have those moments when I act in the flesh, quickly His Holy Spirit is there to correct.  I can’t find the right words to describe what I mean, but if you are listening, then you will know His voice.  Just as a child knows the voice of his or her parents even if you can see them.  Or, a brother knows the sound of his sister and so on.  I will say that for me, I have a strong sense of peace when I am right with Him verses when I am not.

I was going to break down each assassin into my own words, but that would make this blog extremely long and Pastor Franklin does a great job in his book, so I suggest this.  Read chapter 12; write a comment with your questions or insight.  I will respond accordingly.  God bless!

Nov 3, 2009 I made a post, “My point of view on men,” and had a friend comment asking me to dig deeper about my thoughts on the subject.  I recently posted a comment reply to his comment, but realized that we all moved from MSN’s … to hear and thought best to post my reply in a new post in hopes to reconnect with my friends from that site or gain new readers. 


Wow alot of time has passed and obviously Curtis, your question from Nov 6, 2009 has been at the back of my mind for quite some time now. I haven’t even taken the time to write on Chapter 12 and felt I couldn’t until I could answer your question. Here is my thought on this topic, “Why are men important.”

Men have strengths women do not, they have insight to offer children that women do not. Just the same in why a Man can not understand and offer what a woman can. I think God created Man knowing all that needed to be tended to and accomplished. A woman was created to help the man and offer comfort. Commonly, Men are the authoritative person in the home due to women being consumed by emotion and can’t always be the stern one in a crisis a child might go through or the family in general. Usually a man can provide clarity where a woman might be to involved with her feelings. Christ tells the man to love the woman as He has loved/loves the church. For the church is His bride. Jesus gave his life for the church (us), so a man should love and honor his wife as such.

Honor is a word I looked up just this morning in reading Psalm 46. It has several definitions, I will list a few. :

1)honesty, fairness, or integrity in one’s beliefs and actions.

2)a source of credit or distinction: to be an honor to one’s family.

3)high respect, as for worth, merit, or rank.

4)such respect manifested.

5)high public esteem; fame; glory: earned position of honor. ….

There are several more explanations of the word honor that I won’t list here. In the last year and 4 months, I have learned to trust men again and know without doubt they are a valueble asset in one’s life and family, if walking with the Jesus and submissive to God’s will and command.

A woman can experience real love from a man who is a husband rather then one who is merely dating or a casual outing. She can find a person who will care, listen, and hold her when she just needs that extra TLC. (Tender loving care).

The child or children can find direction and character in showing respect and love to a woman or how to interact to the world if lead by a good man.

{November 3, 2009}   My point of view on men.

I had a request for my point of view on Chapter 11 in the Right People Right Place Right Plan bible, book discussion.

Below is an auditable of what I shared with a few friends elsewhere.  At first it will start very similar to this post, but if you listen, you will hear my input and my thoughts on the subject.

I did put more of my thoughts in the auditable verses the written due to the length in the written version. 


update 4-1-2011:  I apologize, the site that hosted the audibles closed. I will see if I saved them on a back up somewhere and update this post.


Reputation is who people think you are. 

Character is who your family knows you are.

I will let you think on this for a minute.

Now this chapter is very intense and may even hit home to some men out there.  Even women who are dealing with a life without a man, a male role.

Malachi 4: 5-6, “Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord.  And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers.

In summary this scriptures says, before the coming of Jesus, there will be a turning of the hearts of the fathers back to their children.  Now this was in the Old Testament, but still affects us today in this generation.  Wait, listen before you rebuttal. 

As Pastor Franklin says, “There is a difference between being a male and being a man.  Just because you’re a male, that doesn’t make you a man.”  I couldn’t agree or say it any better then that.

What is a real man?

Some of you men may measure yourself by muscles, or how successful you are in business.  Shouldn’t you, as a man, be judged by the moral fiber  you are made of, or how successful you are in the home?  Isn’t this a better way to measure a man?

According to Pastor Jentezen Franklin it is, and in this chapter in his book he explains why.  I will do my best to portray my thoughts and his lesson the best I can in this post. 

He first begins by discussing marriage.  He states that a real marriage has to go beyond moonlight and roses to daylight and dishes.  We all have heard similar phrases through out life.  But isn’t it so very true?  Marriage has to go beyond the sex to sensitivity, from romance to responsibility.  I liked how he puts emphasis on the importance of a man in a home by putting in some know statics at the time this book was published. 

These statics are:  In a home where the father is a committed Christian, the children have a 75% chance of growing up to become committed Christians themselves.  But in a home where only the mother is a committed Christian, that number drops to 23%.

Now he did not list the statics for a home with both parents being committed Christian, but I would suspect this percentage would be even greater then 75% very close to 99% to a 100%.

Pastor Franklin discusses the cutting away of fleshly things and becoming re-sanctified.  I discusses the verse in Joshua 5:2 At that time the Lord spoke to Joshua.  He said, ‘Make knives out of hard stone. Circumcise the men of Israel.’  God was basically saying, “Sanctify them again,” as pastor Franklin states.   Every man knows circumcision is cutting of the flesh that designated Jewish men as set apart to be used by God.  That is what it meant then, most people see circumcise as a way to keep the male gender clean.  Hmmm the word clean, interesting, it means to be free from dirt, unsoiled, unstained, unadulterated, to be pure.  The truth is , you’ve been carrying some fleshy things in spite the circumcision.  Haven’t you?  If not, then great!  Some of you men do these things, as pastor Franklins says, “thinking that God will just sort of wink at it – ‘Boys will be boys.’ But God is saying something different.”  

God wants to do a ‘new’ thing in your life and it requires a re-sanctification in every man’s life.  I like how Franklin states it, “God is saying, ‘I want their eyes to be sanctified.  I want their hearts to be sanctified.  I want their eyes to be sanctified.  I want their hearts to be sanctified.  I want their minds and their spirits to be be pure.  I don’t want them just coming to church and taking a secondary role in spiritual things in the home.’”

Franklin describes circumcision as a cutting in those hidden, sensitive places.  Men need to deal with those secret issues, those fleshly things that are hanging on to them, hindering them from receiving God’s unprecedented blessings!  If men would burden themselves to cry out to God for their wives and children, God would save their families.  See in Ezekiel 9:4-6  “The Lord said to him, ‘Go through the midst of the city, through the midst of Jerusalem, and put a mark on the foreheads of the men who sigh and cry over all abominations that re done within it.’  To the others He said in my hearing, ‘Go after him through the city and kill; do not let  your eye spare, nor have any pity. … But do not come near anyone on whom is the mark.’Notice the last part of this passage, if there’s not a man in that house who will carry the burden, then the destroyer will slay the women and the children.

Now you are probably thinking that this does not apply due to the coming of Jesus Christ and the grace we are under stated in the New Testament, but please bare with me as I continue to illustrate the role and purpose of a ‘man’ that pastor Franklin illustrates in this chapter so well.

Suppose we are living in just such days when the devourer, the enemy better known as Satan, is targeting our children and your wives.  Or woman, your husbands.  Don’t you think this time is now?  We see such an increase in divorces.  An increase in women wanting the control in a relationship hungry for the fleshly desires just as a man.  I would say our times are just as sinful as those times in the Old Testament. Thankfully we do have Jesus, our redeemer, who sent His Holy Spirit to be our helper, councilor, and director.  But do we listen?  I know I try to. 

Anyway getting back to this lesson.   Men, there may have been a time you could get by with being secondary spiritually in allowing your wife to do the praying and Bible reading, etc.  and I must say I agree with Franklin on this, “We’re living in an hour when I believe God is marking homes.”  God is saying, “There needs to be a man in every home who knows how to cry out , who knows how to pray for himself.”  Franklin sates, The pastor of your church is not the spiritual head of your home; you are.  It is time for you to cry aloud.  It is time to mark your home for the blessing.  I would have to agree.

Those of you who know me and my situation are probably asking how could I agree with this due to being a divorced single mother raising her son.  This is why, I pray seeking whom God has for me, not going out looking for it in some club or some party.  I stay home.  I get involved in my community, my church, my work, and most importantly in the lives of my children.  When it is time, God will reveal to me the man He has for me.  One that will take the role and responsibility of the home and care for my son and perhaps I would have more children God wiling so this man and I would have created yet another blessing to share.

Anyway, back to this book.

Grow Up Into Discernment

1 Corinthians 13:11, Paul said, When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.  He is not necessarily speaking of a physical age. 

As Franklin stated, “There are some men out there who are locked in a protracted state of childhood.  Children act like children. ‘But when I became a man…’ It’s time for some of you to grow up.”

I like this phrase and it is so true not only for the male gender but also the female gender as well.  Moving from childhood to manhood (adulthood), Franklin says, “People who know you should be able to look at you a year from now and see that you’ve got bigger faith, bigger commitment, a bigger prayer life, and bigger dedication to God.”  Unfortunately there are some, many, stuck in spiritual childhood.  Paul said, “I put away childish things.”  It is a choice and action.  It was not something God did for him, but what he did for himself.

Curse Of The Fatherless

Pastor Franklin writes about a story where baby male elephants were separated from the older male elephants.  To the Kruger National Park and the Hluhluwe-Umfolozi Reserve in South Africa, these younger male elephants with no mature influence in their lives formed into a gang and their behavior became violent killing the rare white rhino in this new region they had been moved to.  This behavior was not in their nature.

Now in America, don’t we hear of stories of gang violence, vandalism, rapes, shootings and worse like trafficking women and men of all ages.  Could this be because we do not have older mature men speaking into the lives of our younger men, mentoring and developing and maturing and teaching them in what is acceptable behavior verses what is unacceptable?  Same for the women over the daughters.  Even the father over the daughters in guiding them of how the male mind works, or the mother in explaining to the sons how a female heart and mind works.  Just a thought.

Men and Women Are Different

In conception of a child, the woman always provides the “x” chromosome because it is all the female has.  The man has both the “x” and “y” chromosomes.  He is determines the sex of a child.  I like how Franklin states, “If this is true in the natural world, think about the influence of a father to give identity to his children in the spiritual world.”  What a thought…huh?

Perhaps the greatest difference between male and female is how our brains are wired. I will quote Franklin on this part. He states:

At conception, men and women are basically identical.  But after a few days, men are washed by the chemical testosterone.  The moment this chemical hits the brain of the male child, it instantly destroys some of the connecting fibers between its left and right side.  This chemical never flows through the woman’s body; therefore, the left and right sides of her brain stay connected.  This is proof that the men are literally brain damaged at birth!  This frying of the connection between the right and the left sides of the brain causes the man to be lateral in his thinking.  He only uses one side of the brain at a time.  It’s a medical fact.

Women think using both sides of the brain. They’re like radar all the time, noticing everything.  Men on the other hand, are more logical, trying to make A plus B equal C.  Women on average, are more sensitive than men, sensitive to sound and light, as well as emotions.

Left side of the brain is challenge-oriented, focused on objectives and goals.  Where as the right side of the brain is more feeling-oriented, nurture-oriented and is better at remembering.

Both a Man and Woman are important in the home to provide the balance, stability, and protection it so needs.  As a single mother, I depend on my church to provide the strong male leadership for my sons.   There has to be men in the church willing to say, “Lord, I’m Yours,” allowing God to use them in the influences of my sons and others’ sons.  Same with women over single men homes with daughters. 

This chapter goes on to give examples of how men can be a better influences by taking action and how he can develop spiritual discernment to feel when things aren’t right in the household.  It is not just something women do.  It is easier for the female then the male due to the structure of how our minds work, but it is possible for a man to do.

He talks about the Trial of Pressure.  God does allow all of us to endure some kind of trial, complaint, and even false accusation to come into your life.  I have personally experienced this.  God will take His lamp and put it on your spirit as I hope and pray he does mine.  To allow those around me to see HIM in my life.  I have become stronger spiritually and emotionally because of these trials.  God wants to see if I have the right spirit in the face of adversity.  He wants to see if I am able to bless those who curse you (me), and pray for those who spitefully use you (me)  Luke 6:28

I couldn’t have said it any better then Franklin when he says, “It is in time of pressure, times of crisis, that your real spirit will come out.”  We are not perfect.  We as humans will mess up.  Thankfully God goes beneath the surface to illuminate our spirits.   So others can see how much light we are putting off through our spirit.    No matter what has happened to you in life; no matter who has hurt you; no matter who undermines your work; no matter what happens in your marriage or in your home, you need to have God’s spirit, not a bitter, unforgiving, and angry spirit.

The Spirit of Jesus

Jesus was going to the cross in the next twenty-four hours, and what did He do?  Jesus took a basin of water and a towel, and went around the table, washing the feet of His disciples. (John 13:4-5)  He even washed the feet of Judas, the very man He knew was about to betray Him.  Could you wash the feet of a person about to betray you?  Jesus demonstrated for them what a true spirit of a servant would do.  He also showed forgiveness toward Judas.  Jesus then instructed his disciples, “If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet” (verse 14).   Are we not His disciples?  Yes, we are.   How much light does your spirit give off?  Your attitude His light will shine through. 

Project the Spirit of Jesus

So I leave you with this, when people curse you, persecute you, you move on, but when you have the chance to reconcile, reconcile.  When you have the chance to get back at someone who has harmed you, hold back.  It doesn’t matter how much one has offended you, get over it.  The desire of the heart of a man of God says, “ Make me like Jesus.  Give me the spirit of forgiveness.  Give me the spirit of purity.  Give me the spirit of holiness.  Give me the spirit of love.  Give me the Spirit of Jesus.”  Remember, Power withholding itself is far greater then power exerting itself in anger.

Basically this chapter starts off with the following scripture:

The Lord gave the word; great was the company of those [women, NASB] who proclaimed it. Psalms 68.11

Simple enough, isn’t it?

Actually, discernment does not come easy for either gender.  Sometimes our own ideals, wants and desires can construed the intend of the message or the discerning message from the Holy Spirit given by the Lord Almighty.

I like the beginning sentence in this chapter, “One of Satan’s greatest fears is that women will find out who they really are and what a significant role they play in his ultimate downfall.”  Jentezen Franklin basically states women are God’s secret weapon.

He begins with showing how God used women in a male-dominated culture, Jewish culture at that. He first talks about Deborah.  She was a prophetess who discerned God’s instruction, but unlike men, she did not hesitate and took action to make a difference. This is in the book of Judges.

I really liked this phrase, “You have to believe in yourself, if only because God believes in you.”  This can be hard for many to do, self-confidence.  Especially if life has handed you bad apples and given reason not to believe in oneself.  Notice the part about “…if only because God believes in you.”  Meaning we need no other reason to know we are special and have a purpose.

Basically if you feel called to do something or feel lead to do something, then do it.  Don’t worry about your short coming or what you do not have.  Step out if faith and trust Him.  He will make up the difference. God is the Creator, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. There is nothing He can not do or supply or equip.

This chapter goes into to sharing about Jael.  Remember her?  She was a mere housewife.  Remember when Sisera, the evil captain of the Canaanite army came into her tent thinking she was no threat? Here he was a mighty fighter, warrior killed by this simple, feeble housewife.  Her weapon, a tent peg. 

Pastor Franklin points out how Jacob used women for protection in the book of Genesis.  I did not recall this until this book pointed it out. He basically put all the women in the front lines and then he hide behind them.  Esau and his 400 soldiers approached, Esau saw the women and what did he do?  Well, I will tell you.  He broke down and cried.  This showed the presence of women on the front line altered the spirit of the enemy. WOW!!!  Amazing, isn’t it?

When the Sabbath was past, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices, that they might come anoint Him. Very early in the morning, they came to the tomb when the sun had risen….Now when He (Jesus) rose early on the first day of the week, He appeared first to Mary Magdalene. As Pastor Franklin states, “Here was the greatest single moment in the history of the world, and the only witness was a woman.” I have to agree with Pastor Franklin on this, this is ironic proof that Scripture comes from God and not from men.  You see in the Jewish culture, women had few rights.  They couldn’t teach or even become educated. They weren’t allowed lots more.  You will have to read about it. 😀  I like this statement in this chapter as well, “God knew that only a discerning woman would be able to see and believe that, contrary to apparent circumstances, Jesus is alive!”

I think this is my most favorite part in this whole chapter:  The kind of women God used in the lineage of Jesus Christ. There are four of the “bad girls” of the Old Testament.  Rahab was a harlot, Ruth was a former pagan and outcast widow with no right to marry an Israelite, Bathsheba was an adulteress, and Tamar was the widow who seduced her father-in-law. (Matthew 1:3, 5-6) God could have chosen better women to make up the genealogy tree of Jesus, but Pastor Franklin believed God deliberately chose these four women because He was trying to teach us about the power of redemption.  I must say I agree. I like how he goes on to say this, if these types of women could be part of the physical family of Jesus Christ, then maybe the spiritual family of Christ, which is the church, can also include women with sordid pasts, now washed and cleansed by the blood of Jesus Christ.

I may not be all that God wants me to be or all I ought to be, but I thank Him I am not what I used to be.

Breaking Free From Your Self

We can make a difference. To become discerning woman in God’s army, we need to break free from the bondage of self-pity, self-loathing, and low self-esteem. Many things that happen to us in life can bind us in chains that keep us from being who God has called us to be. God calls us to walk through the valley, not wallow in it. 

I just realized this is what I was saying just earlier today to a friend via my audio blogs about pain and trials that confront us.  We get through them with God’s help and one way is through forgiveness.  That way the pain is not one of those chains Pastor Franklin was speaking of.  A chain that binds us and keeps us from being who God called us to be.

Pastor Franklin list four things:

1) Trace It

When did it start? What events or attitudes from your past have contributed to your current state? It’s time to cut it out.

2) Face It

Admit to God and to people you trust that you have a problem. Simply say, “I need help, Lord; I’m struggling with this.” Whatever has been locked away needs to be brought out into the light of day.

3) Erase It

Let it all go. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)  Erase all sin and offense by applying the blood of Jesus Christ.

4) Replace It

Let the Holy Spirit fill the void.  Ephesians 5:18 says, “Be filled with the Spirit.”  Renew your mind in the Word.  Think God’s thoughts, and ask God for a fresh baptism of joy.  Isaiah 61:3 teaches us to put on “the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.”

Remember that God will always allow a little crisis to keep us dependent on him.  The Lord will either calm your storms or calm you while the storm rages. God can turn every sob into a sigh.   Jesus will never allow you to drown in your own tears. 

My sins are under the blood of Jesus.

Breaking Free From Your Past

Ezekiel 18:2, “What do you mean when you use the proverb concerning the land of Israel, saying: ‘The fathers have eaten sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge’?”

This text refers to the sins of parents affecting their children. The sour grapes may be an abusive father or mother. Maybe your parents didn’t know how to show love. Maybe they were absent or never available to you. Perhaps you could never do well enough for them. Possibly you never received any affection or affirmation. Sour grapes could be alcoholism, drug addiction, anger, negativism, or depression.  These are some of the ways parents who eat sour grapes affect their children.  A good reason to throw a pity party, right?  Wrong!! 

Look at the next verse: Ezekiel 18:3, “As I live,” says the Lord God, “you shall no longer use this proverb in Israel.”   Good news!

No matter who your father or mother is, no matter what their issues were, if Jesus is alive in you, then your parents’ behavior no longer needs to become your stain.  Jesus broke the curse.  YEAH!!!!


So many people are dealing with issues that stem from past incidents of deep rejection, sexual shame, need for approval, never feeling good enough, or lack of self-worth.  Through Christ the pain stops – sin’s progression in your family line is broken.  LET GOD TURN YOUR PAIN INTO PURPOSE.  It’s time to make a difference.

The Secret to Life Transformation

You and I are already a success in the eyes of God.  What is success?  Don’t fall for the world’s faulty definition of success: fame and fortune.  True success is knowing your worth in the eyes of God and using your gifts properly. 

The secret to transformation, “ the renewing of the mind.”  see Roman 12:2.   What you see and believe in your mind, you will live out.  Believe you are victorious.  If you know who you are, and Who has called you, you will be able to endure anything. 

The reason some people are never used by God is that they have never been through anything.  God gets His best sailors from the roughest seas and His fiercest soldiers from the toughest battles.  God can use what you have experienced to bless others.

It is odd how I felt a strong urge today to finish this draft I began long ago.  Now I can see why.  With the topic, discussion a friend brought up today and the two audio clips I shared earlier about how God has not only healed my relationship with my family, but has also healed me from the bondage or chains of my past and my parents’ past sins. 

The enemy fears praying, discerning women!!  They can break his authority over the home, over the family, over the husband, over the children.  When the enemy has lost those battles, he has lost the war!

I have discerned a few things in the past, but was not confident in myself to know whether it was His spirit showing me and guiding me or if it was my own flesh.  Years later in some cases and months later in others, God shows me that I was listening and seeing correctly what he was showing me.  In a few cases he I can see how my lack of self-worth or lack of confidence caused or allowed the situation to worsen because I did not act.  I need to learn to be more bold not timid and confident not allowing my self to think I am not good enough to make a difference.

I will say this, I am becoming more bold and more confident as I learn who I am in HIM.  I have a stronger assurance of who I am as every day passes.  I am becoming more alert to His discernment provided through the Holy Spirit.

With a lot of changes in my life,  I have not been blogging much or even online a whole lot.  Lately though it has been on my heart to finish this online study.  We only lack 6 chapters in this book.  I have read the entire book and just before the big move, I had a rough draft for Chapter 10, but held off.  In a way I am glad, because now after a few major changes in my life, I have a different point of view to the material in this chapter.  I intend to review the chapter and pray for God’s words to post in the Chapter 10 blog, and I hope to post a blog in July.

My apologies for the lack of time I have had these days to blog/post here.  I hope each and everyone of you are doing great and your lives are filled with an abundance of joy and peace.

I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven.

-Matthew 16:19

This chapter starts off very powerful.  It reminds us of the most power secret; prayer invites angels into the war zone of our experiences rather into our lives.

This chapter uses examples out of the Word to give illustration of how powerful prayer is.  When Peter was imprisoned, but due to the prayers of believers he was set free. 

Acts 12:5 “Peter was therefore kept in prison, but constant prayer was offered to God for him by the church.”

Another version says:  Acts 12:5 “So Peter was kept in the prison, but prayer for him was being made fervently by the church to God.”

Later in this passage you read that an angel of the Lord appeared to Peter and walked him out of the prison and beyond the iron gates that leads into the city.  Peter ends up at the house where many were gathered praying, the house of Mary the mother of John.

The word fervent means having or showing great warmth or intensity of spirit, feeling, a fervent admirer, hot, burning, glowing, enthusiasm, ardent, or rather with passionate fervor.  The word ardent, it means having, expressive of, or characterized by intense feeling; passionate; intensely devoted, eager, or enthusiastic; zealous, burning, fiery, or hot. Now the word fervor means great warmth and earnestness of feeling: to speak with great fervor, or intense heat.

The word constant means not changing or varying, uniform, regular, invariable, or continuing without pause or letup, unceasing like a constant noise, being persistent, faithful, unswerving in love, devotion, steadfast, firm in mind or purpose, having a certainty.

So when we pray, God does release or dispatch His angels.

When Jesus prayed in the garden of Gethsemane, angels came and ministered to Him (Luke 22:43)

Paul prayed in the midst of a storm, out in the middle of an ocean, and God sent an angel to stand by him. (Acts 27:23)

Pastor Franklin says, “The greatest people on earth are those who pray.”  I will have to agree.  He goes on to stress he does not mean people who talk about prayer, nor people who believe in prayer, nor even those who can explain prayer beautifully.   He ensures the reader knows it is those who put in the time to pray.  Now he uses the phrase ‘on their knees’, but I pray a lot, not always on my knees.  Yes I pray for myself, but there are times I pray for others and I am not always on my knees physically.  I can be lying in my bed when the Holy Spirit prompts me to pray for another individual.  Sometimes I am in the shower, driving down the road, in my kitchen or laundry room, and even while sitting in my living room.  I will be prompted to stop what I am doing and pray.  I hope Pastor Franklin did not mean my prayers were not worthy because I am not on my knees physically, and I do not think he does.  There is a different experience when you get on your knees to bow down before the Lord.  Not only does it give honor to God, a showing of Adonai (a showing of the reverence of God).  But it humbles you, even if you are alone in your living room or bedroom.  At first you may think of yourself being silly.   When people are around, at first you feel embarrassment for like 1 second, then you remember it does not matter what the world thinks of you, but what God thinks of you.  Then the day comes, you no longer feel silly or embarrassed, because you have an assurance of your relationship with the Lord God Almighty, I AM.

It is a sacrifice to make time to pray, especially if you are not a custom to it and are new at praying.  Once you become comfortable praying to God through Jesus Christ, you will find yourself becoming a prayer warrior if you allow God to use you.  His Spirit will prompt you of what to pray and for whom.  As it is stated by many not just in this book, “God is not looking for ability, but for who is available.”  He has given us each the free will to decide whether to follow Him or not.  To believe in Him or not.  To accept Him and receive salvation.  To merely stop and simply knowing Him or to grow in having a relationship with Him.  To be a baby spiritually or a mature believer, His vessel to be used as His servant to glorify God.  We are after all created simply for the glory of the Lord God Almighty.

“The prevailing prayer of faith is the power on earth that employs the power of heaven,” written by Pastor Franklin.  He states, “Prayer has brought hearing to the deaf, sight to the blind, life to the dead, salvation to the lost, and healing to the sick."  I must say I have things to verify this.  In my church there is a man who was deaf in his right ear, I believe it was his right ear, but now can hear.  He answered an altar call one service, he being a baby in Christ (this does not reflect his actual physical age mind you) having faith as a child all of sudden could hear in both of his ears.  He has medical reports to verify his claim.  Also another young believer had a lump on her chest, mysteriously it disappeared.  She also has medical reports to verify.  Basically this tells me, I must learn to revert back to the faith I had as a child before the enemy could use the five D’s to interfere.  You remember the five D’s don’t you?  Well just in case, I will remind you.  Also remember as we mature, it is a spiritual battle, HIS battle.  We must always seek HIM and ask for His strength, guidance, discernment, and His encouragement.

The Five D’s the enemy uses to cause us to sin:

Doubt- makes you question God’s Word and His goodness or purpose.

Discouragement- makes you look at your own problems rather then focusing on God, trusting Him to handle the problems.

Diversion- makes the wrong things seem attractive, so that you will want them more than what is right (righteous).

Delay- makes you put off doing something, so that God’s will never gets done.

Defeat- makes you feel like a failure, so that you don’t even try.

When you are feeling as though one of these or a few of these is affecting your life, STOP and PRAY to God for encouragement and to reveal the truth, His truth.  He never leaves our side.  Then say this to the devil (the enemy) “Get the behind me Satan! You do not have power over me.  I belong to the Father, Yahweh.  Christ is in me, with me."  Then you may continue to pray,  "Abba Father through Jesus I ask that you forgive me for the doubt, the discouragement, for allowing diversion to distract me, for delaying that which you have asked me to do, and to forgive me for allowing the feeling of defeat to be upon me.  Fill me with your presence, your glory, your truth, and give me your strength to continue down this path toward you.  Help me to remain on that narrow path that leads to you and to remain steadfast towards the upward call.”  Some of you may need to ask God to help you to find the narrow path, but only you know how to pray for yourself. This is just a suggestion. 

Getting back to this chapter, prayer is everything.  If the church, you are the church, will not pray, God will not act. For Jesus said, “I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven…” (Matthew 16:19)

Prevailing prayer does not mean to only pray when there is a crisis (a problem or need), pray always.  Giving thanks and praises, repenting, asking for guidance, knowledge, wisdom (an understanding), and discernment (insight).  Mostly pray to know His will and purpose for you during all aspects of your life.  Aspects of your life, like relationships (with Christ, friends, family, children, spouse, or future spouse), love, finances, serving, giving, education, and experiences. Etcetera.  You do get it, right?  IN all things REJOICE for the glory of GOD, In all things turn to HIM in prayer, SEEK Him in His Word, and to know Him.  His Light will shine via you to the world.  Making all the darkness around you disappear, that is the main purpose we are all called to do.  Spread His Word, allowing the whole world to know who He is.

Paul said, “Therefore I exhort first of all that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks be made for all men.” (1Timothy 2:1)

In James 5:16 we see the protracted prayer, fasting prayer, weeping prayer, effectual prayer, and fervent prayer of the righteous that avails much. 

Characteristics of Prevailing Prayer:

The word protracted means to draw out or lengthen in time, to prolong or extend. 

The word fasting means abstain from food or eat very little or abstain from certain foods for a period of time, especially as a religious discipline.

The word weeping means expressing grief, sorrow, or any overwhelming emotion by shedding tears.

The word effectual means producing or capable of producing an intended effect; adequate, valid, or binding, as an agreement or document.

The word fervent has been defined above at the beginning of this blog.

In this chapter, examples of people who displayed prevailing prayers were given.  To list a few of the examples briefly:  Elijah the prophet influencing the weather with his prayers, Esther in saving her nation the Jews, and Rizpah who did not allow her sons to be eaten by the wild beasts and sought proper burial for them.

As Pastor Franklin says, “Prevailing prayer is having the tenacity to hold on until something happens.”  He goes on to say, “One of the greatest weaknesses of this generation is a lack of commitment for the long haul.”  I must say I can see this surrounding us everywhere.  If you think about the divorce rate increasing and companies letting go or closing down, and the abortion count increase. God wants us to have the heart of an eagle not a cheetah. 

Isaiah 40:31 “Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary.” 

There are a few things in my life at this very moment, I am having to not loose hope in or allow my heart to be weary.  What keeps me going is the truth.  Things do not look or appear as though good things are headed my way, but the knowledge He has given and my trust in Him my hope is strengthened.   "’But then I will come and do for you all the good things I have promised, and I will bring you home again. For I know the plans I have for you.’ says the Lord.  ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me in earnest, you will find me when you seek me. I will be found by you,’ says the Lord. ‘I will END your captivity and restore your fortunes…’" Found in Jeremiah 29: 11-14. I know if I remain steadfast focused, He in the end will shine through me receiving all the glory and those things will come forth (answered prayers).  Those things I speak of I will share briefly.  One is my new position, a position that will sustain me and my boys providing more, so He can use it to minister to a group of youth through me.  Second is the sale of this home, receiving a price that will lead to a profit allowing my current church to benefit as well as restore my Storehouse and pay a few things off, reducing my debt.  Third is to prepare a way to move providing all that is needed to make the move.  Fourth bring my house in order providing me a new husband as the head of my home to love my boys as his own.  Fifth having all my children under one roof right now I only have two boys, but wouldn’t mind more with my new husband.  When my oldest goes off to college, he will come home to visit and share his life with me.  Also that the bond between my youngest and I will continue to grow and he will never want to leave me.  To be honest, at this moment, I feel as though I know the position that will be given to me and I stand in faith, claiming it as mine through Him who has prepared me for it.  I also know who my future husband will be for it is HE who put the love and desire in my heart for this man.  I must be like the eagle not the cheetah in this area.  God is working on him and on me preparing us both for the union He will bind together.  I hope to soon enter into a dating or courtship type of relationship allowing us both to know eachother better and grow spiritually together.  You see, I believe sharing HIS love, our relationship with HIM will make us a stronger tool for HIS purpose in serving HIM.  I do not know the buyer of this house, but I know one will come.  I do not know what kind of offer the buyer will make, but I know the value of this home.  I do not know where in the city I will find my new home, but trust God to lead me there revealing the location in due time.  HIS Timing!!!!

Okay getting back on track for the message in this chapter.  Revelation 5:8 says, “Golden bowls full of incense, which are the prayers of the saints.”  Revelation 8:4-5 says, “The smoke of the incense, with the prayers of the saints, ascended before God…. Then the angel took the censer, filled it with fire from the altar, and threw it to the earth.”  Pastor Franklin claims, “What marvelous images!”  I must agree this is a wonderful or as he said marvelous image.  He goes on to say when we pray we are filling up those prayer bowls in heaven.  In God’s perfect timing, prayers are mixed with the fire of God (His power) and cast back down to earth to change our situation.   Our prayers are like incense before the throne of God.

Prayer and discernment go hand in hand!!!!!!!!!!  Pastor Franklin gives an example of a pilot having been pulled out of a plane due to an open door.  The copilot returning back to land, radioed back for a rescue team to begin searching.  A wonderful story and I won’t ruin it by quoting the story for you hear.

God is in need of men and women who will stand in the gap and become prevailing prayer warriors, otherwise known as intercessory prayer.

Pastor Franklin goes on to say Prayer is an Insatiable Hunger for Change.  Proverbs 30:15-16 “The horseleech hath two daughters, crying, Give, give. There are three things that are never satisfied, yea, four things saith not, it is enough.  The grave; the barren womb; the earth that is not filled with water; and the fire that saith not, it is enough. "(KJV)  Franklin gives great illustration of this to explain.  He ends with this, “The miraculous works of God were the result of insatiable hunger for change.”  

The word insatiable means incapable of being satisfied.

The apostles knew that ministry without prayer was powerless.  We are to do both serve and pray!  Not to mention (not to forget) stay in His Word.

et cetera